This dress was graciously gifted to me by Pink Blush and my opinions are my own!
Welcome to Motherhood - My Way
I'm not your typical mom. I had my oldest daughter at 17 and my second at 21. Life has handed me quite a few lemons 🍋🍋🍋 but I'm determined to make lemonade. I'm learning ways to raise two amazing young ladies and I love it. Everyday isn't pretty. There are tears and I mean real tears...those ugly cries. My goal is to be as transparent as possible. I want to share what I wish someone would have told me about motherhood.
I will also highlight other moms that rock. I know my story isn't like everyone else's but I want to reach a board audience of women so that we can share, grow, and connect!!!
A few weeks ago Kaydence came home excited to tell me about the new dolls she had gotten while she was with her Nana. “Mom, guess what?” “What” I replied. “I have plus size Barbies!” I was in shock and wasn’t quite sure how to respond but I had to see it. She knows I’m all about loving your body at every size!
I saw it and I was shook! These dolls are actually called Barbie Fashionistas – Curvy and honey let me tell you, these dolls have curves!
First and foremost, I always allow my daughters to pick the dolls of their choosing and really like for them to pick the ones that look like them. I’m all for representation, ya’ll! So I was extremely tickled. Even though this isn’t major, I’m excited to see things like this happening. I also know they have dolls that are disabled as well and I think this is awesome. We are all unique in our own way and deserve to be celebrated!
What are some toys you purchase for your children that make you proud?
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I love the idea that I can be hands free! This bag has so many compartments. I not only have stuff inside for the baby but myself as well with room to spare. I can also store a few things in for the girls as well.
I can’t wait to use it full time.
Not to mention how affordable it is! I went looking at diaper bags at Buy Buy Baby and OMG, they are expensive so I feel secure with my choice. This diaper bag comes in right under $30 I would actually pay more for it because it’s that good! Even dad likes it, he wants one for himself!
Want the exact one click here!
Not really a fan of the gray? Well you’re in luck while on my hunt I found a few other sellers that have this back pack in other colors. I can’t speak to the quality but the reviews seem great!
In my 10 years of parenting, what I know is that you want a durable diaper bag. One that’s leak proof and easy to carry. On a scale of 1 - 10 this diaper bag comes in at a 10 for me. I didn’t think I would ever be this excited to carry a backpack!
Yay, you're pregnant and like the millions of other women out there you've looked at maternity photos. You can't help it! It's contagious. I'm sure you've searched cute bump photos on Instagram and you're just not sure if you want to do it.
If you're looking for that push or voice of reason, it's me! Do it! I had photos taken with my oldest but not my now middle child and I regret not doing so. You don't have to spend a lot of money. If you can't afford a high-end photographer go to your local Sears or Picture People.
So here are my 3 reasons I'm taking maternity photos!
1. I will only pregnant ONCE with this baby.
We've all heard what people say "the first baby gets everything" and omg, it's true. I did everything with my first child. We have to remember each child is special and they deserve their moment. When they look back in the photo books they want to see what you looked like pregnant with them.
2. I'm embracing this new body.
This is baby #3 for me and you can imagine the changes that your body goes through when you're pregnant. Most women shy away from the camera but I want to be in front. I plan to show my belly instead of hiding it. Yep, I have stretch marks and all and I don't mind showing them.
3. I want to!
It's really that simple. I don't have some philosophical speech about why I'm doing it, I just really want to. I'm in a different place in my life and I would love to document it. I was pregnant at 16, 21, and now 27. I am not the same and that should be showcased!
Are you considering it? What's holding you back?.
Don't think you can afford it? We all know someone who takes good photos or wants to be an photographer. Be their muse and worst case senerio you'll still have a cute pic.
We all know baby showers have become a fashion show now. Like seriously, have you seen them? From the over the top flower walls to the King and Queen chairs - its a full on event. I'm not hating! However, I believe that moms to be want to be comfortable. You'll be hugging people, getting up and down to open gifts and you might want to partake in some dancing. So why feel restricted in your outfit?
Here are my top 5 picks for the dress that will do just that!
Outfits by PinkBlush Maternity
This dress is ADORABLE and gender neutral. I would totally wear this if I was having a girl and pair it with some ankle boots!
Sizes: S - 3XL
This dress is perfect for brunch baby shower. It's lightweight with a little stretch. Stripes are always nice it will help smooth you out if you have that concern.
Colors: Black and Mauve
Sizes: S - L
3. Blue Lace Mesh Dress
This is for my boy moms! OMG, I'm thinking about grabbing this one for myself! It's so pretty and sexy! I'm all for embracing this pregnant body! I can see it so don't be surprised if you see this dress again!
Colors: Black, Blue, and Mauve
Sizes: S - 3X
This dress looks amazing. It has a stretching top for your growing girls and a beautiful pleated bottom that is SO ON TREND right now! It's simple and not to flashy.
Colors: Aqua, Pink, and Lavender
Sizes: 1X -3X
Now this is for my moms to be who aren't afraid to show what your mama gave ya! It's cute and flirty. I would rock this for my shower if I knew it was going to a party! I would opt for a longer version for a day shower but that's just me. So honey, do you!
Colors: Magenta, Navy Blue, Red, and White
Sizes: S- XL
I have seen this dress on several ladies and it is STUNNING!!! No matter your shape or size this A-Line cut flatters!!! This dress gets brownie points because you can use it during pregnancy and after. The top perfectly unfolds to allow you to nurse your little one!
Colors: Pink and Blue
Sizes: S - 3X
This dress can be for your baby shower or gender reveal and some people are having them the same day so BAM! 2 in 1 and you're good to go. I do love how pretty the pink and blue flow so well together.
Sizes: S - XL
We've all seen this dress but it never gets old. I think it's a classic really. From showers to photo shoots you can't go wrong with choosing it in pink or blue!
Colors: Black, Blue, Red, Magenta, Ivory, Navy Blue, and Pink
Sizes: S -3X
This dress is a great alternative to similar lace styles. Lace can snag pretty bad but the mesh is a great alternative.
Colors: Ivory, burgundy, navy blue, and olive green
Sizes: S - XL
I love the off the shoulder trend. It's classy and still modest. I love the grays and blues in this dress!
I hope you've enjoyed my top picks for your baby shower. Whatever you wear make sure you're comfortable and HAPPY. That's the most imprortant thing.
Already had your shower? What did you wear?
This isn’t my first rodeo so I know exactly what I want for this baby. I have seen some new things since I last had a child but I’m trying to be extremely reasonable this time.
Yes, yes, and yes!!! This is a MUST. When a guest would come over I would have my baby in the Pack n’ Play. So they wouldn’t have to come in the room to visit with her. The older my kids got they were able to use it as a playpen. The best part about it is it’s transportable.
My girls enjoyed their swing! It was great but I will warn you it doesn’t last long. By 4 months you can give it up but it’s nice to have. After a bottle, I could sit them in their swing and off to sleepy town they’d go. I was able to get so much done. (For the first few weeks, sleep while they sleep but once you’re able to move around…do it!)
I am also a Pampers snob when they are first born. The hospital typically gives those out when the baby is first born and I fell in love. After 6 months, I’m using any brand I choose but when they are tiny Pampers is my only choice.
What are your must-haves for a new baby?
Bonus Items: I'm considering getting some of these things for my baby!
1. Bookbag Diaper Bag
I'm really digging this trend. I can see how easy it would be for mom or dad to use it. The first one was found on Amazon for under $40 while the other is a brand favorite SkipHop at Target. I don't think I will be taking the plunge and spending $100 on a diaper bag.
Lately, I've been finding really great things on Amazon! Check out these cute shoes here!
The natural state of
Bringing another life into this world is scary but exciting. For my previous pregnancies I've been sick and it reflected in my appearance. This go around I've been doing well...better than I expected.
So, I plan to make it a big deal. This is the LAST baby and since I feel well enough to put on clothes, I will. I was so excited when Pink Blush reached out to me for this collaboration, I knew I couldn’t refuse.
The goal of this company is to “provide the modern mother with affordable and on trend fashions for every transitions in her life – from maternity to motherhood and beyond.” I feel they have executed this precisely!
The first piece I selected was the maternity robe! How stinking cute is this? My favorite part about it is that it’s not your traditional robe. It has a tie on the inside to expand with your growing belly as well to keep you covered if you decide to nurse. I want something that I’m comfortable enough to walk around the house in when we have guest over and this is perfect. It’s light weight with a thick cotton.
Sizes Available: 1X, 2X, 3X
Style Pictured: Purple Floral Crochet Trim Plus Delivery/Nursing Maternity Robe
The next piece I choose was a fall floral maxi dress! I can’t wait until fall and fingers crossed it will be here soon! As most of you know, I’ve been stepping outside of my comfort zone lately and trying some color! This dress caught my eye and I knew I couldn’t pass it up! I love the hints of light blue (as I’m praying for a boy, lol) and burgundy as they work so well together.
The dress provides great stretch. I can see this working well later into my pregnancy as well. The top is roomy for my bustier girls. I felt extremely confident and comfortable. The dress hit at a pretty good length I paired my dress with flat sandals but a bootie will be perfect as the cooler weather comes.
Sizes Available: 1X, 2X, 3X
Style Pictured: Navy Blue Floral Print Sash Tie Maternity Plus Maxi Dress
I know the struggle can be real and with all of the fabulousness of maternity photos these days you want these images to be perfect and what a better way to do that than to start with the basics! Dress comes first - they are easy and most likely you're going to be taking these photos somewhere between 25-35 weeks so you will start feeling some discomfort. Make it easy on yourself!
Let me show you my top 5 picks for dresses!!! I hope I have something for everyone if given the chance to do this again I'm opting to bare my belly! I have never had a maternity photoshoot before. Well, I took some photos with my first but they were NOTHING to brag about.
Keep an open mind and remember any maxi dress can be turned maternity if it has the right hem...above the belly. So you can get a 2 for 1 deal there!
5. Maxi Dresses
Double Duty - These can be worn at your baby shower, gender reveal, or photo shoot. This is if you don't want to want to do the formal type of dress. This dress comes in 5 colors: navy, black, olive, pink and red wine!
Have you taken maternity photos before? Do you plan on it? Try something cute and sassy for next shoot and be sure to let me know what you wore!
Self Affirmations for Kids
My daughters mean the WORLD to me. I'm not sure what I would do without them. Despite how much they challenge me. My goal is for them to know they are loved, beautiful, and smart. I want them to know about self-love. I encourage them to ask me questions. No question is off limits (and granted that can get out of hand) but it keeps a healthy and open relationship between us.
After realizing how important affirmations can be I decided to place sticky notes above my daughters' beds and recite them with them every morning. Sometimes, it doesn't happen every morning BUT we I always make sure that before we pull out of the driveway I give them an encouraging word to remind them just how great they are!
Below are my top 20 POSITIVE Affirmations that I share with my daughters. Some are gender neutral so feel free to do this with your son as well. Remember, the goal is to raise confident little humans!
20 Affirmations for Kids
1. I like me.
2. I am beautiful/handsome.
3. I am smart.
4. I can do all things!
5. My body is PERFECT the way it is!
6. I am happy.
7. I am loved.
8. Today WILL be a great day.
9. I CAN listen and learn!
10. I am capable of doing the impossible.
11. I love myself.
12. I forgive myself when I make mistakes.
13. I believe in myself.
14. I am strong.
15. My voice/opinion matters.
16. I respect others even when I don't agree.
17. I am allowed to have feelings.
18. My skin is a beautiful shade of brown. (This is my favorite for Kay!)
19. My hair is perfect straight or curly!
20. I can be anything I want to be IF I put my mind to it.
As a mother of little brown girls, it's important that I teach them how important it is to love themselves. I don't feel I was really taught that growing up. I'm sure my mom said something here and there but it wasn't what I envisioned or give to my daughters now. What I can say is...I'm so grateful that my mom knows how important being it is that I express love to my girls through affectionate behaviors. She has a thing that she does with each of them to remind them just how special they are and I love it.
I guess its true, the things you wished for as a child you parents in turn give it to your children.
What kind of attitude do you have towards motherhood?
• Is it something you look forward to?
• Is it something you simply want to survive?
• Is it something you’re not sure how to deal with?
I think we’ve all experienced each of those feelings at different times. Sometimes we’re excited about motherhood; sometimes we’re overwhelmed.
It’s a big, important job. We are shaping little humans, whether we like it or not. No matter what we do- good or bad- our children are watching, and they are learning by example.
There’s this pressure in our society that motherhood is second best. That when you choose to become a mom, you're essentially "throwing your life away." Our culture can be very "me" centered, and motherhood is the opposite of being focused on yourself.
As a mom, I began feeling trapped. I felt like I wasn't living up to my "full potential." I bought into the lie that I can't have a life because I'm a "mom."
But I realized something: if I have a defeatist attitude, then I’m going to pass that same attitude down to my kids.
There is nothing more detrimental than the words “I CAN’T.”
I found myself as a mother, saying things like:
"Oh, I can't go do that because I'm a mother."
"I can't have a social life because I'm a mother."
"I can't go do that because I have two kids under two."
"I can't because I'm pregnant."
"I can't because it'd be too hard."
Good grief I turned into the "can't" parade.
How I spoke to myself and my children needed to change. I was getting depressed because of all the "can't's."
I decided to try a little experiment with myself- I could no longer say the word “can’t”, I had to change it to a CAN.
So I changed:
"I can't do that because I'm a mom" to "I CAN take my kids to do that with me!"
"I can't have a social life because I'm a mother" to "I CAN teach my kids how to interact socially at a young age, so they are better prepared as adults!"
"I can't go do that because I have two kids under two" to "I CAN be brave enough to try things with two kids!"
"I can't because I'm pregnant" to "I CAN be active while pregnant!"
"I can't because it'd be too hard" to "Yes, it is difficult, but I'm a mother, which means I'm capable and CAN do it even if it is hard!"
My view of motherhood changed completely with that simple exercise. It empowered me as a mom and enabled me to do more with my kids.
Don't adopt a defeatist view. You are a MOM! You are capable of these amazing things. You grew a baby in your body; you went through the heart-stopping stress of adoption; you are pouring yourself into your kid's lives. You can be an amazing person who is a mom!
Don't sell yourself short!