Relaxed Hair Journey: Month 1 Update

It’s officially been a month since I’ve had my relaxer. I don’t know how to style my hair just yet so I’ve kept it in braids and wore wigs. I’m going to start looking for cute hairstyles to wear. Wish me luck because wigs are life!

I’m also learning how to let my hair air dry. This has been frustrating. I’ve washed my hair twice but the first time I did it I used a prepoo and I’m so excited that I did. I will continue using that. I’m also considering adding a rice water rinse to routine as a lot of people have seen great results from that.

Freely Nat Prepoo

Pre Poo Ingredients:

Love Beauty & Planet Argan Oil & Lavender Smooth & Serene Conditioner 

Black Jamaican Castor Oil

Virgin Coconut Oil

Avocado Oil

I’m currently using a little bit of everything until I run out and decide which hair products I would like to continue using. So stay tuned for and update and let me know what you’re using.


I also cut my hair shortly after this video. Seeing my split ends drove me nuts. That’s exactly what this hair journey is supposed to be about seeing things and making changes!

Becoming My Own Hair Goals

This will be the start of the documentation for my HEALTHY HAIR CARE journey! For so long, I’ve said that I’ll start wearing my real hair once I reach this length or if my hair gets styled this way and I had to realize I wasn’t taking any steps in the right direction to help me achieve those goals.

It hit me like a ton of bricks when I read on Instagram that “women will take better care of their extensions/weaves than they do their real hair.” I am guilty as charged. I don’t care for my hair like I should under my wigs and that all changes TODAY!!!


I’ve tried doing the natural hair thing and that just wasn’t for me. I think we all our own paths and you’ll learn which one is yours. With me relaxing my hair I have to learn how to make sure my hair remains healthy.

I stumbled upon Hairlicious on Youtube when trying to find great hair care tips for relaxed hair so I’m going to start by following some of her recommendations.

Over the course of 3 months I will do the following steps and see what type of results I can achieve.

Helpful Information:

I’m 3 months postpartum.

Currently taking my prenatal vitamins and coconut oil capsules.

Last Relaxer & Trim: April 18, 2019

Step 1: Identify my hair care needs/goals


My hair is thinner in the front than the back.

I want my hair to be thicker overall.  

Step 2: Create a Wash Day Routine

Wash hair 1x a week (unless in a protective style)

Deep condition 20-30 minutes 1x a week (w/ add ons)

Apply Leave-in and detangle

Air dry

Moisturize and seal with Jamaican Black Castor Oil

Step 3: Protective Styles



Deep Conditioner Additions:

Extra Virgin Olive Oil

Avocado Oil

Coconut Oil


I’m excited and nervous but I know it will all be worth it in the end. I will do a 1 month update on or around May 18th to do a check in and then I’ll do my final check in around July 18th to conclude my 3 month reboot and length check.



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Classic Style // White and Denim


I love simple looks! Having style or being fashionable should not be hard or break the bank. I am the queen of a good sale! I love finding staple pieces to enhance my wardrobe. One of my favorite things are a great pair of jeans!

Freelynat WhiteDenim

I haven’t shopped at Ashley Stewart in a long time and I forgot just how great their clothes were. I found these super cute jeans on sale for $19.99, major steal and this top from New York and Company for under $20. I pulled the look together with a pair of block sandals and there you have it!

This look will always remain timeless, you can swap out the distressed jeans for a different look.


Pants: NLA, Similar

Shoes: NLA, Similar, Similar2 - Naturalizer Talan Sandal


Bold Prints for Spring

Dress provided by PinkBlush - all opinions are my own!

Ladies!!!! Spring is here and summer isn’t far behind, so you know what that means? MAXI DRESS season! I can’t wait. I live in maxi dresses this time of year. They are perfect for work,  date night, or brunch with your girls.

FreelyNat Bold Print

To kick off this season in style, I’ve partnered with PinkBlush to bring you this look!

This dress is bold and beautiful. I would have never thought to mix these two colors together but honey, it works! The dress is more of a pale blue than mint as it’s called on their website. It’s stretchy but a little sheer. It doesn’t cling so that’s always a plus! The dress has an open neckline giving you the option to play with it. You can wear it off the shoulders, pulled up (if you don’t want so much shoulder exposed), or rock it one sided like I’ve chosen to do.


Since the print is so bold, I stayed away from overly doing it with accessories. I wanted the focus to be on my dress.  I’m wearing a XL but could have easily worn a large due to the material of the dress. I’m a 14/16 on a good day and carry the majority of my weight in my belly (which can be hidden nicely).

If this print is too bold for you, try out some of their other pieces here.

They also have a great maternity section, thank me later!