Ten Subtle Feminist Statements You Can Make in Daily Life

The current political climate has revived many forms of activism. Movements like Extinction Rebellion and Black Lives Matter are two examples of on-going battles for justice that are re-merging with renewed energy. From worldwide initiatives to street protests, activists from all walks of life have put their own goals on hold to stand up for causes they care about.


The struggle for gender equality is no exception, as women—and some men—all around the globe have brought sexual assault into the spotlight via the #MeToo movement.


If you’d like to build feminism into your daily life, here are some powerful feminist practices that contribute to building a more feminist world.


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Not Everybody Has to Be a Vocal Activist

Are you engaged in the struggle? While some people are out there doing truly incredible work, it’s important to recognize that not everybody has the time, or the energy, to get fully involved. Don’t worry if you’re don’t feel extroverted enough to join a street march, or if your budget is too tight every month to donate to social justice groups. Even tiny day-to-day actions can add up to positive change.


What matters is how you exercise your choice on a day-to-day basis. In many ways, the individual decisions we make every day have the power to reshape the cultural assumptions that dominate our experience in terms of gender and sexuality.


Push Back on Gendered Dress Codes


Women have lots of different roles, from Mom to worker and friend. Each different role has a set of expectations when it comes to what you’re supposed to wear. If you decide to push back on those expectations, it can be easy to feel ashamed, as if failing to dress right means you’ve failed to embody what you’re supposed to be. Want to be a feminist? Dress however you like, whenever you like. You’re the boss of your image and your body. Don’t let others dictate how you dress.


Go Out Solo


Men are encouraged to be independent and go out on their own. Whether they have company or not, many men feel confident in their right to go out and enjoy themselves. Unfortunately, some women don’t feel confident about going out on their own. They fear being seen as lonely or even as promiscuous. As a feminist, you can push back against this stereotype by going wherever you feel like going, whenever the mood takes you. Who cares if you have a date, or a friend to accompany you? Take a feminist stance by heading out all on your lonesome. By stepping out on your own, you’re advertising to other ladies out there that you’re sad, slutty or desperate. You’re just a woman who takes pleasure in her own company.


Educate Yourself


Throughout history, women have not been encouraged to have opinions on the serious matters facing the world. ‘Women’s issues’ were confined to household subjects, like housework and chores, rearing kids, and entertaining. Getting the best education you possibly can is a brilliant way to challenge those generations of poor or inferior educational opportunities and exclusion from salaried jobs.


Getting educated doesn’t have to mean university. Who says a degree is the most meaningful form of learning?  Your library card is the key to vast areas of knowledge, right there at your finger-tips. Read a wide range of subjects, and sta up to date on current affairs. More importantly, have an opinion. Whether you read the newspaper online, listen to educational podcasts on your way to work, it’s important to expand your educational horizons for the sake of feminism.


Support Girls Education


If you’re passionate about education for girls as a major issue within feminism, you may be inspired to investigate different ways to support education for girls on a global scale. Monthly donations to organizations doing good work, or even spreading the word, promoting awareness and educating folks via social media can make a difference and help girls out there who have been excluded from educational opportunities.


Ask For a Raise


Even after decades of feminism, the gender pay gap remains an unfortunate fact of life. Many people—especially women—are scared of raising this issue in the workplace, as it is often met with push-back. But we all know that on average, men get paid more than women for the same level of work. As a feminist, it’s important to know your worth and point out to your boss when you are not being paid enough for the value you contribute to the company.


Fight For That Raise


For a long time, the standard line on the gender pay gap issue was that women get paid less than men on average because women are less likely than men to ask for a raise. Don’t ask, don’t get, right? However, this has since been disproved by numerous studies and focus-groups. Women ask their bosses for more pay as frequently as men. The difference comes in the response from the employers. On average, men are more likely to be granted a raise in response to the request than women are. And, women are more likely to experience negative repercussions in the workplace if they ask for a raise, being viewed as pushy and grasping. This is not a great situation.


As a feminist, one of the most powerful things you can do is ask for a raise when you deserve one. And don’t stop there: once you have asked, follow up. Fighting for that raise is a powerful way to help to bring about change for yourself and all women, as asking seems not to be enough.


Take Charge of Your Reproductive Health


The battle for equality in terms of sexual and reproductive rights for women has been at the forefront of the global feminist agenda for decades. The feminist struggle is once again fighting to protect and promote women’s rights in terms of promoting awareness, educating women about their choices, and supporting access to effective and safe contraception. As a feminist, one of the most powerful ways that you can show up for women is to educate yourself on contraception methods, and take control of your own reproductive health. Like eating well and exercising, reproductive health should be seen as an essential part of your healthy lifestyle



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Speak Up


Girls are often brought up to be “nice” rather than say what they believe. The result of this is that even when women don’t think something is right, they may be hesitant to speak up because they are scared of offending someone, seeming unpleasant, or going against the grain. In contrast, men are raised to say what they think, however unpopular the opinion they have, and may even be rewarded for rocking the boat. Any lady who’s ever been called “opinionated” or “difficult” (or even more unpleasant labels) will understand what it’s like to try to speak up when your ideas aren’t what other people think.

Next time you realize that you’re holding back on saying what you really think about something, remember that you’d be taking a stand for feminism is you can be assertive on behalf of all the other women out there. While it is never easy to rock the boat, you may find it energizing and inspiring to see your bravery as a powerful feminist act.


Apologize No More!


Women tend to apologize far more than men. Fact. If you don’t believe it, rather than searching the web for some research on the subject, consider doing a little research of your own. Grab a friend of the opposite sex and agree to both count how many times you each say “sorry” or “apologies” every day. After one week, add up how many apologies you’ve uttered. You’ll be shocked by the difference in your totals. If you find this interesting, take your research to the next step and work out what exactly saying sorry for. It’s crazy many times a day women tend to say sorry for things they have every right to do, like eating a sandwich or saying “No” when someone asks them a favor, or even for showing completely reasonable emotion.


Why do women say sorry all the time? It’s definitely not because women are always in the wrong, and men are in the right. The reason is that women are far more likely than men to think that they are in the wrong. When women interpret a difficult situation, they tend to blame themselves, rather than the other person involved, especially if that other person is a man. One of the most subtle but effective feminist tactics you can employ in your daily life is to take note of your “I’m sorry” habit. Once you’re aware of it, you’ll be more likely to be able to effectively stop doing it. That doesn’t mean you should go around doing as you please and not saying sorry when you are wrong. Just save your apology for when it counts.


Whether or not you have the energy, the resources or the time to roll up your sleeves, you can still be an activist. These tips will help you show your feminist colors in our day-to-day life. 

Sistahs in Business Expo 2019 - Columbia, SC

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The Sistahs in Business Expo was lit!!! There is no other way to describe it. I was truly honored to be in the number. So if you missed it this year make sure you’re in the building next year! I know they are coming back and even better.

To be honest, I didn’t know what to expect. I wasn’t sure how much I would get out of it since I don’t “own” a business, but honey, I was wrong! There were so many gems being dropped that if you didn’t have a pen and paper what were you really there to do?

First off, can we talk about the organization of this expo! They were ready to rock and roll on time and I love that! They did not play any games. Everything was decorated so beautifully and each vendor put thought into their booths!

I loved seeing so many women of color share their talents. I was able to walk around and visit with each vendor and learn a little about their business. I was even able to patronize a few Bri’s Butter and Lips by Ke’ Nichole.

My favorite part of the day were the panels. I receive a piece of inspiration from each session!

Session 1: Chit Chat with Aisha Taylor Issah, CEO

Aisha Taylor Issah is the visionary behind the expo and she taught us how to go after our dreams. All we have to do is just start.


Session 2: Authorpreneur Panel
Write the book!

Panelists: Tamika Sims, Shannon Mcrae, Ashlye V. Wilkerson, and Tara Seals

Every lady was so knowledgeable and came from different backgrounds but all carried the same message for authors to simply just get started!

Live. Learn. Lead. - Pastor Shannon Mccrae

They even recommended some books to read to get us started:

Who moved my cheese?

7 Levels of Communication

The Obstacle is the way


Keynote Speaker: Gizelle Bryant

She was so down to earth and spoke about how she got started. She spoke about being a mom and having to be away from her kids and how she raises them to be respectful young women.

That definitely hit home for because I’m trying to live my dreams and show my daughters that anything is possible.


Session 3: Superpower Panel
Local Women in Business

Panelists: Tamika Shuler Washington, April Jones, Bianca Crawford Shelton, Kitwanda Cyrus

This was probably my favorite session. I was able to see women in my community living their dreams and owning businesses. This personally lit a fire within to me to keep hustling!

Overall the event was AWESOME! I’m looking forward to next year. Keep up with the Sistahs in Business Expo on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter

Want to see what you missed? Take a look below!

Kaydence was able to join me for this incredible experience!

Kaydence was able to join me for this incredible experience!

Build Your Confidence By Pushing Your Boundaries


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We all have a safe zone. This is where we are calm, quite happy and don’t worry about stuff all the time. There’s only one problem with the safe zone: if you allow it, you could quickly create a tiny space where you thrive and everything else becomes off-limits.

One of the key ways to build your confidence and reduce your anxiety is to gently and gradually push these boundaries away. Yes, this is difficult, but the rewards you gain are huge. If you are willing to leave your comfort zone, you might just find that it opens up to accommodate new things. And that’s how you gain a rich, full and healthy life

Create Small Tests

One of the first things to do is to write a list of things that cause you to worry. For someone who struggles with social anxiety, this could be a list including meeting new people, going to a party or talking on the phone. Whatever your anxieties are, be honest with yourself, what are you avoiding and what makes you anxious?

Next, rate your fears out of 10. This step is important because you should expand your boundaries slowly. Facing your biggest 10/10 fear straight off isn’t likely to work but facing a fear that is closer to 6/10 is enough discomfort to be worthwhile but not so much that you will make yourself ill! 

Set Your Experiments

A behavioral experiment is simply a way to face a particular fear. Just do one fear at a time and build up slowly. An experiment can be anything and should work to eradicate your anxieties. The best experiments are basic in that they aim to resolve one anxiety at a time and gradually building up to your biggest fears. 

So, if the idea of performing your own music in public makes you feel shaky and anxious, you might consider performing for some friends first. Then once you’ve done that and you feel more confident, you could consider doing an open mic night. This article will give you an idea of what’s out there: What are the best places for open mic nights in Texas?

Track Your Progress

It’s easy to forget just how far we have come. This is why it’s important to set your experiments and record what happened from what your fear was to what the actual results were. Often, our anxieties project the worst case scenario but the reality shows us that this isn’t a guaranteed result. 

As you build up your experiments, you will see that it is possible to push your boundaries out and extend your comfort zone. It’s okay to feel nervous before a performance but it’s not okay to allow that to develop into paralyzing anxiety. This is true of any anxiety: if it prevents you going ahead, you need to think about why that is and gently push at the belief.

Proving your anxieties wrong over and again is the best way to build your self-belief and confidence. Just look at all the evidence you have. 

Health Tips All Women Need to Know

As most of you know, I value taking care of yourself: mind, body, and soul. Today we’re diving right into some great health tips to keep you balanced!

Staying fit and healthy throughout life is the most important responsibility we have to ourselves and the people around. When our attention is constantly being pulled here are there, it is hard for us to focus on making those healthy decisions every single day.

Trying to be healthy can be daunting but it shouldn’t be. Health is a simple thing to maintain and it can be done really easily using different methods. Today we are going to take a look at how you can stay healthy today. 

Eat a healthy diet

The most important thing you can do to stay healthy is eating good food. Our body runs off the fuel we give it, and the good we feed ourselves has a huge effect on our health and well-being. Make sure to eat as much fruit and vegetables as you can, and always try to eat a lean source of protein with a meal. As long as you eat in moderation and take care with your diet you shouldn’t have any problems. 


Our body needs to move in order to burn calories and lose weight. Every single day, our body will burn approximately 2000 calories by performing functions such as breathing and thinking and pumping blood around the body. However, if you eat 2500 calories in an average day, you need to consider working out and moving to burn those extra calories and maintain a healthy weight. Consider running or playing sports and this can make a huge impact on the effectiveness of your weight loss. 

Avoid risky habits

There are a lot of bad habits which can affect your health in vastly different ways. If you smoke too much this can cause risk of many illnesses; if you sleep around a lot you could end with with a trip to the abortion clinic; and if you drink alcohol too much you can become addicted or gain a lot of weight. When living your life it is important to consider the consequences and make sure that you manage your habits in a savvy and smart way.

Manage stress 

Mental illness makes up a huge portion of the issues we face in our adult lives. If you are struggling to manage with your day to day life due to stress, this can cause more issues later down the line. When managing your health as a woman, it is incredibly important to put mental health and well-being at the forefront of your thinking. Be sure to manage stress in many ways and think about how you can refresh and relax at the end of a stressful day at work. 

Sun care 

During the summer, most of us want to take advantage of the sun and the fact that we can get a real tan. But it is also important to remember that our skin needs protection against the sun. Be sure to always carry sunscreen with you in the summer sun and also make sure that you apply it regularly to maintain healthy and glowing skin.

Exploring South Carolina: A Day Trip to Isle of Palms


I have always been a fan of day trips. I think that we don’t know much about our state or city unless we are intentional with exploring it. Lately, I’ve been making it my business for my girls to see what their state has to offer!


Being born and raised in South Carolina, I have yet to see it in all of its beauty but one of my go to spots for a quick getaway is Isle of Palms. It’s located just 12 miles from the Downton Historic District of Charleston. It offers both residential and a resort style community!  They have great restaurants right on the beach. My personal favorite is Coconut Joe’s! Their fried shrimp is AMAZING!

I like to go to the beach early – for many reasons. The early bird gets the worm or in this case the best spot on the beach! Arriving early means less people! The beach opens around 6:00 am (sunrise) and most people that are out that early are the joggers and dog walkers. The temperature is usually cooler first thing in the morning too so you don’t get extremely sweaty at the beginning of your day. My game plan is to leave by 12:00 pm – 1:00 pm and my children will have enjoyed a full day and sleep well later! #MomWin



Helpful Tips:

Parking $2.00/hr – 8:00 am – 6:00 pm

Beach Chair & Umbrella Rentals

This trip, we arrived to the beach around 9:30 am and decided to rent an umbrella! Great decision although it was an overcast type of day. The next time I go I will plan ahead and rent chairs and an umbrella for more space!

I packed water, beach toys, and snacks. We left around 12:30 pm due to the rain but we were still able to have a great time. Clayton was able to experience his first beach day! I also brought back up aka my mom. I always need an extra set of hands. Having another adult allows me to play with the girls freely which is always a plus for them.

If you’re ever in Charleston, SC make sure you visit the beach! It is truly a favorite!


Ideas for Planning Great Group Activities

This is a collaborative post - I hope that you will find the information helpful!

Typically when people think of group activities - it revolves around going out for a meal, and a night on the town. However, you can plan something great for you and your group of friends (some may include a cocktail), that produce more than a big bill.

Another reason to change up what you do as a group is that not everyone in the group has the same disposable income. And it might be nice if there were a range of things that people could do together. 

If you have managed to get into adulthood, with a group of friends, that you like and who really like you - then you should look after them. Spending quality time together is part of that. 


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We all have that one dish that we are really great at cooking. A potluck is a great way to cut back on the big spends, all enjoy some good food, and be able to wear your comfy clothing should you wish to. The idea is, everyone brings a dish along and you can just take what you’d like to eat. You will probably have to designate someone as the bringer of the desert and someone else as the provider of the drinks cart. 

You can take it turns, choose themes and keep it to the same third Friday of every month. Different people can host too. 

It is a great way to have a good meal without having to bag a reservation. 

Art Nights

If some of you are pretty creative, you might like the idea of a paint and sip studio. You can book a few tickets, and create some artwork while chatting, snacking and sipping whatever beverage you’d like. 

It is not often that we get the chance in our adult life to really relax and see what we can do with a paintbrush. So booking the time and giving yourself permission to relax and create is something pretty cool. 


With the eco-movement of spending less, avoiding fast fashion, and respecting your clothing a bit more - is it any wonder that secondhand stores are thriving? Create a list of all of the thrift stores nearby, and schedule in an afternoon to go treasure hunting. It helps if you set a budget and a route to take.  

If you are smart, you will even plan in a coffee shop too! For many, this is a typical Saturday afternoon, but making it fun by having a goal. A new outfit, looking for designer stuff, just make sure you stick to your budget. 


If you have a nature reserve someone in the region, it might just be time to hop in the car (or public transport if you are being green) and take a long walk. Not everyone loves the idea of going for a walk at first. But within a few minutes, even the most significant city slicker will have softened up and be strolling alone. 

Walking is great to relax your mind and muscles - unless you choose something strenuous. Pack a picnic to make sure you have a little snack as you go. 

Do The Work: 5 Steps to Healing After Trauma

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“Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.”  -Hippocrates

 One thing I’ve learned in my 27 years of living is that LIFE HAPPENS. We don’t get to choose our families, therefore we don’t know exactly what we’re being born into BUT what I do know is we have to do the work to heal ourselves. We have the power to change!

No matter what your struggles are there are events that can change your life forever. It may seem small to others but it’s monumental to you. I have endured experience after experience and wondered why it happened to me. I questioned everything about myself. I attempted to find understanding in places that I shouldn’t have. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not perfect, never have been, and probably never will be BUT I’m working hard every day to become a better version of myself.

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In the black community, we are taught to be “be quiet”, we move on without healing. What does that do for us in the end? How does that help us become the best versions of ourselves if we’re constantly sweeping everything under the rug? I’ve been determined not to be quiet. I refuse to be silent! Why should I be? Why not let my voice be heard and my story be told in hopes it will help someone else.

I remember watching my mother deal with problems growing up. She cried, prayed, and gave it to God. Don’t get me wrong. I’m all for that…I truly am. Sometimes it’s just easier said than done.

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7 NLT

By the age of 18, I had mastered the art of not dealing with my feelings. By 19, I had allowed myself to be battered and abused because I didn’t believe that I was deserving of true love. By 20, I almost married someone I didn’t love just to run away from the abuse. I was NUMB actually DEAD on the inside. My faith was gone, I was extremely overweight and unhappy I couldn’t see light at the end of the tunnel. And because I believed all of the foul mess he spat at me and trusted the forever broken promise to "never beat me again", at 21, I found myself, again, pregnant by my abuser. The words “your family doesn’t love you…why would they allow… to happen to you” played over and over in my head. As crazy as it sounds...somedays I would wish that he would hit me instead of speaking so negatively to me. Words kill! It's like a tape recorder on repeat in mind. One day the lightbulb went off in my head and I decided I didn’t want to die. I knew that if I stayed in that situation it would be the end for me. I left…disappeared into thin air leaving nearly everything behind.

And you would have thought that’s when the healing would have started. Oh no my friend, I did what I knew best swept it under the rug. I dried my tears and handled my business.  Fast-forward to 25 when it all started to click. I was an emotional train wreck! I realized I NEEDED HELP! I needed to deal with my mess. I needed to own the parts I played in my own downfall. I had to FORGIVE! I kept carrying that dead weight within me and didn’t understand that one day it would explode. That’s what usually happens…all of a sudden one event that shouldn’t send you over the edge does and you have nowhere to go. Then everyone really thinks you’re crazy!

Healing starts with YOU!


Below I’ll share with you my 5 steps to healing!

1.       Acknowledge the problem

Sometimes the best way to fight a demon is to stare it straight in the face.

This step will take some time. I had to personally sit down with pen and paper and write down everything that hurt me. Then I read the list back to myself while looking in the mirror and accepted every emotion that came with it.

2.       Understand YOUR Role

In most situations, we had some hand in the way things were handled. I’m not speaking about sexual trauma or things beyond your control but what about that man/woman that you knew wasn’t right for you. All of those red flags you avoided just to say you had someone.

3.       Forgive

Forgiveness is for YOU…it has nothing to do with the other person. You will stay bitter for years because “Joe cheated on me” or “Sally left me.” Whatever and I do mean whatever was done its okay. Their actions were not but you’re still living and breathing. TAKE BACK YOUR POWER. Forgiveness frees you. That doesn’t mean you and that person can be friends or even like each other but you’ll feel better once you truly allow it to be released from your heart.

4.       Seek Help

 Often times we are afraid to seek out help from a professional because of what others will say. No one has to know you’re in therapy. Do it for yourself. Find your purpose and start living again. If you can’t afford a therapist try researching free services through your employer or find support groups. You’re going to need someone to help you unpack your mess.

5.       Take time for yourself

Start discovering who you really are. Who your family wants you to be not who your friends think you are but take time to find out about yourself. What makes you happy? What feels good to you and go from there.

There is no set time on the recovery process. Trust me, I wish there was. It’s taken me nearly 3 years to fully recover and that’s okay. I had to make some hard choices. I had to learn to stand up for myself and decide what I wanted my life to look like. My life isn’t anywhere near what I want it to be but every day I’m one step closer. I believe that you can do the same. What’s stopping you?

Bonus Tip: 

Here are some great books to help you get started on your journey! 

Dresses for Days

I'm a true girly girl at heart but every now and then I wear something that's a little different! Check out my summer favs so far! 

*This post does contain affiliate links. This cost you nothing - it just helps to keep my blog afloat.*


This black and white number gives me all the feels. It's cute and flirty! It also has a snap in the front so if you dare show off the girls! Get yours here

Denise Benson Photography 

Denise Benson Photography 

Denise Benson Photography 

Denise Benson Photography 

I am usually not a fan of white because it gets dirty so fast but this dress is SEXY and SOPHISTICATED what more could a girl ask for? I can throw on a hat and wear it to church or I can enjoy a nice dinner date and have heads turning!  It also comes in navy blue. See the dress here! 

Photo by: Aneris Photography 

Photo by: Aneris Photography 

Every woman LOVES  a comfy maxi dress. I'm 5'6 and this dress hits me right at my ankles. So if you're shorter, you might enjoy it. I did wish it was a little bit longer but I have enjoyed that it doesn't hang on the ground. Get yours here


I have this dress on standby to wear again. It's so beautiful in person. It gives me all types of Southern vibes. This is one that you'll want to have! Check it out here.


And finally, my favorite dress is on sale NOW!!! 

Summertime Fashion

A few weekends ago, I was able to create some #blackgirlmagic with my girl Denise Benson of Denise Benson Photography and we captured some awesome looks that I can't wait to share with you. So let's hop straight into it. Everything listed will be under $30 - I'm a budget shopper and I love to catch a good sale! Most of the pieces I purchase are staple pieces. I believe that if I'm going to wear an item I want it to last and be worn for more than one year/season!

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*This post does contain affiliate links - this means that if you purchase through my link I will receive a small portion at no cost to you! This keeps my little blog running. TIA!*

I apologize now because some of these items are no longer available because I waited too long to capture them. Sorry but I promise to find you a great dupe!


I originally saw this skirt on one of my favorite plus size bloggers and knew I had to have it and it was from my favorite store so that couldn't be better. This skirt is lightweight with a stretchy band. It does have a high slit in the front but I feel that's what makes this skirt! It's playful and sexy! The top is apart of my swimsuit. It's truly transitional as you could wear it as a top! 

Rainbow Skirt - Exact (Out of Stock), Dupe 1, Dupe 2 


I haven't worn a 2-piece in years due to my fear of not having a flat stomach BUT WHO CARES!!! This swimsuit provides a little comfort because it's high wasted and the strappy details of the top make it trendy! 

Swimsuit -  Exact, Dupe 1, Dupe 2


I've been holding on to this cover up for a while! I saw it online and knew I had to have it. I couldn't wait to wear it but when I got it, I was sooooo confused! How in the world do I put this thing on? It came as a sheet and I had to figure it out but I got it together and I'm pleased with the results! 

Swimsuit Cover up - Exact (Out of Stock), Dupe 1, Dupe 2


Earrings: Exact - $12.99 , Dupe 1, Dupe 2


All Deets Below - Happy Shopping!

Swimsuit Cover up - Exact (Out of Stock), Dupe 1, Dupe 2

Swimsuit -  Exact, Dupe 1, Dupe 2

Hat - Exact, Dupe 1, Dupe 2

Rainbow Skirt - Exact (Out of Stock), Dupe 1, Dupe 2 

Earrings: Exact - $12.99 , Dupe 1, Dupe 2

What do I write about now?

Writing can come naturally to you or you may need to work on it quite a bit. However, I think we all need a little inspiration from time to time. At the end of last year, I was writing down my goal list as most people do before they enter a new year and created my "2018 Blog Post Ideas." I choose topics that I felt resonated with me and here we are in the second quarter of the month and I've only completed 5 of those posts, lol!

Surprisingly, that's not bad. When I'm not feeling inspired I can always pull out that list and pick a topic. So don't limit yourself! Your creative juices can stop...we are not always oozing with ideas and for those of you that are...kudos my friend!

Here you'll find my blog topics for 2018! Download your copy now and let me know what you plan to write about!

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Blog Better | Weekly Planner Guide


We've all been there...lost and confused on how to plan out our blog. I know I've been there and kinda still am but recently, I said I will no longer be all over the place. Stress FREE blogging is what I'm all about. So I created this weekly planner to help me stay on top of things!

Everyday, you will focus on a different task dedicating 2-3 hours to each. My goal is 1 blog post per week and 2 if I'm lucky. My assigned days are Mondays and Wednesdays. I do not want to feel required to post more than that.  Blogging should be fun - don't make it harder than it has to be. 

*Blogger tip: Always keep a notebook and pen handy in case you get inspired!

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Monday: Pinterest

We ALL know that Pinterest is where it's at if you want to increase your blog traffic. What I like to do is design my pins for my upcoming post. I create at least 3-4 pins follow up with pins that I have saved to my boards schedule pins on Tailwind. I'm not a major fan of Tailwind because of the tribes and cost. Also, if you're apart of group boards make sure you're pinning others post. To create my pins I use Spark Adobe and I love it. I purchased Adobe's Creative Cloud a few months ago and it has been a game changer! Also, if you're an affiliate remember you can add those links into your pins as well! But be sure to state it is an affiliate link.

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Tuesday: Instagram

Do it for the gram!  How well Instagram drives traffic to your blog is up to you. Do you have your website in your bio? Are you engaging with followers? Do you post stories? Instagram can be a beast until I gave into Planoly I kept hearing people talk about it and I wasn't sure that it would be useful for me. Oh boy, was I wrong. Planoly allows you to create the Instagram of your dreams. Bloggers always want the perfect aesthetic and that's possible with seeing your post ahead of time. Plus you can AUTO POST and not be in violation because Planoly and Instagram have partnered. This gives you more time to enjoy life without being worried about what and when you should post. I also like that I can it tells me the number of likes and comments I have and even the best times to post and if you have a big following this can give you more time to engage with your followers as they comment on new post!   You can sign up here. 


I schedule my post a week in advance and leave myself wiggle room in case I want to add pictures on the fly BUT remember that's what you have Insta Stories for. You can always share the photos there and save them in your highlights. 


Wednesday: Blog Post

Sometimes, I write in my journal and need to type the post out. This allows me time to do so, also batch working helps. You should have at least two weeks worth on content scheduled that way you're not overwhelmed. Strictly spend this time editing or writing new post. Also choose your photos, what's a good post without photos, right? Save what you have and keep going. Don't spend too much time focusing on editing right now, you will have time later in the week to go back to this.

Thursday: Facebook

Some of you may run groups on Facebook but for the most part you have your blog's Fan Page. See mine here, I mainly share my blog post to it and try to say something here and there. I would like for this to be a more active platform for me but currently it's not. Facebook also has an awesome scheduling option! Use that to your advantage especially for Holidays!

Friday: Free Day

Work on whatever you like, that can be other social media platforms, writing reviews, taking photos, recording videos. This depends on your blogs needs at the time. You know your schedule best, do what works for you!


Saturday: Schedule Content

Revisit those drafts, update your newsletter, prepare for the week! This will be the easy part, most people live for the weekend and you should be able to enjoy it. Get up or early or do this late and night and you're ready to have a successful week!

Sunday: REST

No working on Sundays. I find it best that you take your mind off of your side hustle for a moment. Being a content creator can be a very challenging thing to do but it's necessary to avoid burn out! 

I hope this was helpful to you! Click here for my Planner Guide Freebie!


Top 10 Questions to Ask When Getting to Know Someone

Dating is never easy, especially when you've been out of the game for a while. You feel like you know what you want but the other person may not. So I came up with a list of questions to get you started.

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I personally, have asked a lot of these questions on a first date. My time is valuable and I refuse to waste it. 

  1. What was your childhood like? (Family, friends, background)  
  2. Who is one person you admire and why?
  3. If there was something you could change about yourself what would it be?
  4. Are you married/divorced/separated?
  5. How many children do you have? (Biologically or adopted)
  6. What do you do for a living?
  7. Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years?
  8. What is your stance on religion? Are you spiritual or religious?
  9. What is something you do well and not so well?
  10. What did your last relationship teach you?

*Disclaimer: I am not a relationship expert but I feel these are questions that you need to ask. They can be great conversation starters. If you're dating for fun- great these questions may not be used but if you want something a little more permanent and you would like to weed out the bull crap. Give them a try and let me know what you think! 

Also, if you have other questions that you feel should be added to the list let me know! 


Stepping Into Color

Stepping into Spring 

Who else is guilty of having a closet full of black? Black is my go to color, it's safe and sexy. When I think of black, I think of all things powerful, so I will ALWAYS keep a smoking hot black number in my wardrobe. (I just ordered 2 new black dresses!)

If you've been following me on Instagram you know that I've been playing with color lately and below are my favorites from my new additions. Let me know what you think. What are you go to colors for Spring? 

I will include links to the outfits! 

Coral Blazer - Belk , Jeans - Areopostale (Super Stretchy), White Tank - Walmart    Blazer - No longer available  Jeans- No longer available 

Coral Blazer - Belk , Jeans - Areopostale (Super Stretchy), White Tank - Walmart  

Blazer - No longer available

Jeans- No longer available 

Dress from  New York and Company    I love the fit of this dress! It hides my belly and it flows you can even dress it down with flats! Also comes in Navy Blue! 

Dress from New York and Company

I love the fit of this dress! It hides my belly and it flows you can even dress it down with flats! Also comes in Navy Blue! 

I added the red scarf for a pop of color! 

I added the red scarf for a pop of color! 

This dress is from New York and Company but its no longer available. I found another option that I would totally wear  here ! 

This dress is from New York and Company but its no longer available. I found another option that I would totally wear here

My newest addition - this cute yellow/mustard color dress from BooHoo!    Boohoo  - You will have to wait a few weeks to get it but its worth it. Style: Plus Amy Off The Shoulder    Amazon  has a very similar option.   Sunglasses:  Amazon 

My newest addition - this cute yellow/mustard color dress from BooHoo! 

Boohoo - You will have to wait a few weeks to get it but its worth it. Style: Plus Amy Off The Shoulder 

Amazon has a very similar option.

Sunglasses: Amazon 

Cute and affordable Amazon find! It has a great stretch to hide the midsection. If you have wide hips this would be PERFECT for you!   Find the dress  here !

Cute and affordable Amazon find! It has a great stretch to hide the midsection. If you have wide hips this would be PERFECT for you! 

Find the dress here!

Starting Over

It’s back to reality for me starting tomorrow. I’m a little excited and nervous at the same time. Our summer break was rough!!! My role at work has changed so I’m ready to find some balance…

I’m freeing my mind to all of the new possibilities that are coming my way. The goal is to get back on my health kick ASAP. My mind and body NEED it. So, we’ll see what tomorrow brings.