6 Tips to Help You Discover Your Purpose

Many people don’t know what they want to do or where they want to go in life. You’re constantly stuck, while others just know. It’s totally fine if you’re one of the people who just don’t know. I’ve been there. Trust me and to be honest I’m still there – kinda.

When I was younger, I always told my mom I wanted to be a lawyer and I stuck with that. I was so determined UNTIL I found out all of the history that it required me to know and I quickly backed out. Next, I wanted to be a child psychologist and some days I still think about it but life and motherhood make that feel impossible. Lately, I’ve found that I have a heart for people. I believe I always have.

Since high school I’ve worked in the childcare field on and off. In my most recent position I served as a Childcare Director and I loved it but knew I needed to be doing more. Although my job now is different, I’ve been afforded the ability to create. Taking on a less stressful job has allowed me to see all of the possibilities that were waiting for me.

So…how do you get to your purpose?

Step 1: Brainstorm

I believe you have to do some thinking. For one moment forget about everyone else and think about yourself. What will make you happy AND make you an income? A lot of the times we get lost in our title/role i.e. mom, wife, sister, caregiver etc. that you forget about who you are.

Step 2: Make a Plan

Start by making a plan. I’m old school and I like to write things down with pen and paper. Once it feels solid I transfer it electronically. I also like to think of ways that I can realistically make it happen. I don’t suggest quitting your job and running off to find your passion unless you can afford to do that – then go ahead! Start becoming intentional with your time. Set aside an hour a day to determine what makes you happy and ignites a fire within you. Don’t think you have an hour to set aside? Use your lunch break, get up an hour earlier or go to bed an hour later. Your dreams will thank you.

Friendly Tip: Not sure where to find a quiet space? Go to the library and turn your phone on silent or do not disturb.

Step 3: Pray

Often times we get lost in our heads. You have so many ideas but not enough clarity. I’m extremely guilty of this. When I pray, I feel centered. Something just calms me, I typically began my prayer by asking God to release everything within me that’s not like Him and allow me to be used for His glory. Praying does not have to be in a dark room and on your knees. Prayer is having a conversation with God. I speak to Him every day on my way to work. I laugh and joke with Him because I know He has my best interest at heart.

Step 4: Fund Your Dream

No money? No worries. Start small. I’m a FIRM believer that we if you want something bad enough you’ll get it. I’ve decided to cut back on things that I don’t need. I was subscribed to services that I rarely used. I was able to save $20 from my budget. Not much but it’s a start. Have stuff around the house that you don’t need? Sell it! Remove things that no longer serve you.

Step 5: Education

Do you already know how to do your passion? It doesn’t have to be that you go into business for yourself but maybe the job you want requires certain skills. The money you were saving to “fund your dream” begin applying that words your education. You’re never too old to learn.

Step 6: Begin

It’s really that simple. Just get started.

I wanted to start a blog forever but I didn’t know how to do it. I still don’t know everything there is to blogging but guess what…I started. Everyday I’m learning something new. As more information becomes available I will continue to learn.

 

So what are you waiting for? No more excuses! Start creating a life you LOVE!

 

 

8 Things My Mother Taught Me

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1.       Kill them with kindness.

My mother has always known I was her outspoken child. Holding my tongue was one thing I was not good at. I’m sure I kept her on her knees about my mouth but she constantly reminded me that I would gain nothing by returning hate with hate. “Kill ‘em with kindness” she’d said.

2.       Prayer

Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. James 5:16 KJV

If I didn’t know anything else she taught me I that I needed to know how to get a prayer through. She was not always going to be around to intercede on my behalf. Although scary to think about, I’m grateful for that because I realize that life is precious and I need my own relationship with God.

3.       Love is action.

I can hear my mom saying this now! I was always and still am the one hugging and kissing my mom telling her how much I love her and in return she says “love is action.” I don’t know that I understood what that truly meant when I was younger or maybe I didn’t care to but now as an adult I feel that in my SOUL! Want to know how to love me? Take care of me – wash my car, pick up the kids from school, cook dinner and clean the kitchen! Now that’s love!

4.       Love your sister.

My sister and I are 5 years apart, so naturally we had the sibling rivalry thing going on and it didn’t help that we were girls. I wanted to be like my big sister and she wasn’t having that. My mother constantly reminded us that life is precious and we need to hold on to each other.

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5.       Take time to get to know him.

I know she wishes she could have engraved that in my head! I was often too trusting of people because I believe that everyone deserves a fair chance. Now, I get it. I’m sorry mama, lol.

 

6.       Tough Love

Rightly so, I was the wild child. My mom knew she had to show me tough love at some point. She knew I was stubborn and needed to learn some hard lessons. She allowed me to fall on my face a time or two. She told me to suck it up more than I would have like to hear but I needed that!

 

7.       Everyone is NOT your friend.

I have lost count on how many times I’ve heard this growing up. My mom always wanted us to keep a watchful eye because everyone does not have your best interest at heart but when you encounter a real friend hold on to them.

8.       How to be a mom

I may never be half the mom that she is. She’s kind, patient, and loving. She would move heaven and earth for her children and wouldn’t think twice about it.

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As I reflect, I see how much we’ve both changed since I’ve become a mom. I was her baby having baby. She’s held my hand, cried with me, prayed for me loved my babies as if they were her own. She’s watched me grow into the mother I am today. For that I’m forever grateful.

Wishing you the best Mother’s Day yet!

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For the love of reading with Bookroo 📖

“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.” – Dr. Seuss

This post is sponsored by Bookroo, as always all opinions are my own!

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Do your kids receive mail? Mine usually don’t unless it’s for their birthday. Needless to say Maddy was ecstatic when she found out she was getting a package just for her.

Even though technology is taking over the world right now, there is nothing like getting lost in a book. I want my children to understand the importance of reading. I remember laying in my bed as a kid reading for hours on end. My favorite was the Harry Potter series!

Now, I want to offer my children the same love of books outside of the yearly book fair. Bookroo is an affordable way to grow your home library. They are a monthly subscription service that delivers 2-3 books to your door curated just for your children. This service is best for children ages 0-10 as they have their selection broken down to select the best books for your little ones.

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I was pleasantly surprised by the packaging. It was bright and easy to open but the books were wrapped. It truly was made to feel like a present which only adds a level of excitement. The books we received were Shine by Patrick McDonnell and Norton and Alpha both books we have never read so this was truly a plus!

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Why should you choose Bookroo?

How often do you purchase a new app for your children? If you’re like me it’s monthly, not to mention the add-ons that you didn’t know you had to buy. Why not give your child the gift of reading? I’m personally not hip on all of the latest children’s books but the best part is Bookroo can take the guess work out of selecting a book for me. Their books are chosen by an elite panel and they pride themselves on sending out hidden gems instead of the classics!

Afraid of committing to a monthly service? That’s okay, you can cancel at any time, plus you can use my code FREELYNAT for 15% off so what do you have to lose?

It’s very easy to sign up. Click here!

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Head to checkout and fill out the form and you’re done! Patiently wait for your books to arrive.

If you sign up, I would love to know what books you receive!

 

 

If you could give your mother ANYTHING for Mother's Day, what would it be?

I came up with the idea to give Kaydence a writing prompt because I want her to continue reading and writing while she’s out of school. This is the one she choose and my heart just melts!

Friendly Reminder: Mother’s Day is May 12th!!!

My sweet girl, Kaydence!

My sweet girl, Kaydence!

If I could give my mom anything it would be an unlimited gift card to any place. One because it’s unlimited, two some days are tough and she might be hungry or just want to get something nice for herself (like she does constantly…just kidding mom), or she might want to do something fun and now she’d have the money to do it.

I know she would like it because it’s unlimited and who wouldn’t like that? She likes to do a lot of shopping. I don’t think they have any cards like that though. She would be so happy to have an endless supply of money to buy anything she wants and I mean ANYTHING. Plus she deserves it! 

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Do you encourage your kids to write? We have started our mother/daughter journal and I can’t wait to see what comes of it.