All my single ladies, all my single ladies!! Sis, you are okay, even if it doesn’t feel like it. As a newly single person who’s been mentally checked out of the relationship for a long time, it’s tough to embrace this new season. I am constantly flooded with emotions, even ones that I never expected, but I want you to know you’re not alone. We’re in this together, and we can come out on the other side.

Today, I want to share a few affirmations to keep us going during this new season of our lives.

Rebuilding and Rediscovering

Being newly single can feel like navigating uncharted waters. It's a time of change, adjustment, and rediscovering yourself. Affirmations can be a powerful tool to help you through this transition. Repeat these affirmations daily, preferably in front of a mirror, to help rewire your thoughts and build a stronger, more confident you. It’s going to feel weird at first, but you’ll get there. Even put sticky notes around your mirror as a reminder of where you’re going.

Affirmations for Self-Love and Worth

I am worthy of love and respect.
I am strong and capable of handling anything that comes my way.
I trust myself and my decisions.
I am learning and growing every day.
I am proud of who I am.
I am more than enough.
My past mistakes don’t define me.

Check out these Mindful Affirmation Cards to help you along your journey. They can be displayed on your nightstand or in an office.

Affirmations for Healing and Letting Go

I release the past with love and gratitude for the lessons learned.
I am open to healing and moving forward.
I forgive myself and others.
I allow myself to feel all my emotions.
I am creating space for new and positive experiences.
I will challenge myself to do something that feels scary.
I have survived my hardest battles.
I am stronger than I once thought.

Affirmations for Confidence and Independence

I am independent and capable of creating a fulfilling life on my own.
I embrace this new chapter with excitement and curiosity.
I am confident in my ability to make new friends and connections.
I am enjoying my own company.
I am stepping into my power.
I am beautiful.

Affirmations for the Future

I am attracting positive relationships into my life.
I am open to new possibilities and adventures.
I am excited for what the future holds.
I am creating a life I love.
I am worthy of happiness and joy.

Tips for Using Affirmations

Be consistent: Repeat your affirmations daily.
Believe in them: Say them with conviction and feeling.
Customize them: Tailor them to your specific needs and situation.
Write them down: Keep a journal and write down your affirmations regularly.
Visualize: Picture what it would feel like to embody these affirmations.

Remember, healing and growth take time. Be patient with yourself and celebrate every small victory. You've got this! Our story isn’t over; in fact, a new one has just begun.

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Hey Friends! If you’ve found this article, that means you’re considering therapy, and let me tell you, it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. I want you to know that you're not alone. Millions of people seek therapy every year to help them with a variety of issues, including anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and grief.

I’ve been on a healing journey for years, and one of the main things that has stopped my progress is the ability to have a good and consistent therapist. I found that in-person appointments didn’t work for me. It required too much time and resources, so virtual sessions became my perfect solution. I aim to continue working on myself every day and showing up as the best version of myself. In doing so, that required me to start therapy again.

Finding a therapist can be daunting, but it's important to find someone who is a good fit for you. Here are a few things to keep in mind when you're starting your search:

Do your research. Before you start interviewing therapists, research to learn more about different types of therapy and what to expect from therapy. You can find information about therapy online, in books, and from friends or family who have seen therapists.
Talk to your doctor. If you have a doctor, you can ask for a referral to a therapist. Your doctor may be able to recommend someone who is familiar with your medical history and who can help you with your specific needs.
Ask for recommendations. Talk to friends, family, or coworkers who have seen therapists and ask for their recommendations. You can also ask your local mental health association for a list of therapists in your area.
Interview potential therapists. Once you have a few names of potential therapists, schedule an interview with each one. This is your chance to get to know the therapist and see if they are a good fit for you. Ask the therapist about their experience, their approach to therapy, and their availability. This may often be referred to as a consultation and may be offered for free.
Trust your gut. When you're interviewing therapists, pay attention to your gut feeling. If you don't feel comfortable with a therapist, don't feel obligated to see them. There are plenty of other therapists out there who can help you.

I was able to find an amazing therapist via the Therapy for Black Girls Directory. I entered therapy in October 2020, and it was good, but that therapist no longer fit the needs and style of therapy that I needed. I was in a crisis and wanted to find help immediately. It was huge for me to realize this, and starting my therapy journey again in 2023, I took a new approach. I researched long and hard; I knew the things I wanted help with the most, and I only sought out a therapist who could provide that for me.

Starting therapy can be a big step, but it can also be one of the most rewarding things you do for yourself. By finding a therapist who is a good fit for you, you can start on the path to healing and recovery.

Here are a few additional tips for finding a therapist:

Be prepared to answer questions about your mental health history and your goals for therapy.
Be honest with the therapist about your expectations and concerns. (When you have the right therapist, you’ll feel comfortable being honest.)
Be open to trying different types of therapy.
Don't be afraid to ask for help if you're not sure what to do.

If you're struggling to find a therapist, there are a few resources available to help you. You can contact your local mental health association or crisis hotline for assistance. You can also find online directories of therapists in your area.

Finding a therapist can be a challenge, but it's worth it. With the right therapist, you can make progress on your mental health goals and live a happier, healthier life.

If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. You can also reach the Crisis Text Line by texting MHA to 741741.

You can also call 1-800-985-5990 or text “TalkWithUs” to 66746 at the SAMHSA Disaster Distress Helpline. Trained crisis workers will listen to you and direct you to the resources you need.

Wishing you all the best!

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